If you and your spouse have ultimately come to the difficult agreement that it is in each other’s best interest to seek a divorce, then you should contact a trusted divorce lawyer. It’s an emotionally overbearing process no matter how amicable the separation is, and working with a lawyer, such as one of the lawyers at Kempen & Company, can relieve you of the potential legal and financial stress through this journey. The best legal approach to the divorce will depend on the nature of the separation and how much you and your spouse agree to go about the proceeding. Regardless of how good-natured the divorce may be, there are some universal communication tips to consider. We’ve compiled a number of communication factors to consider as you and your spouse move forward with the divorce.
Though this is a sensitive, life-altering event for each of you, keep in mind that your marriage was a legal contract. With that in mind, you must focus on making practical decisions, no matter how hard it may be at first. In terms of communication, remaining professional and respectful towards your spouse will always be in your best interest. If you do begin to cause strife and be the initiator of strenuous conflict, such as fighting, shouting, or even verbally abusing, this will give your spouse a lot of leverage in the legal proceeding. To achieve the best form of fairness, do not pursue any form of retaliation against your spouse.
Consider A Mediator
If you and your spouse are in a heated situation and cannot find it productive to speak to each other directly, it could be in your best interest to use a trustful mediator. This mediator should feel like a third party and not create a bias towards either side of the divorce. You want to be able to look back on this process in the future and know you handled this transition in the most respectful manner.
Establish Your Own Boundaries
Because this is a matter of business, you want to be specific and intentional in how you communicate and work with your spouse as you divide your assets. Setting boundaries is significant to your mental health and also your family’s. To protect your children, it is advised that you do not discuss your divorce matters in front of them, and you especially do not want to stir any type of heated argument in front of them either. Decide which way is the best way for you and your spouse to communicate. This will be unique to the nature of your relationship – you want to establish if you are going to communicate via text, phone call, and/or email. Additionally, set a boundary for how much and how often you talk to your spouse. And be aware of what you put in writing to them.
Focus On What Needs To Get Done
While the divorce is in progress, it is ideal to just stay focused on the practical issues at hand. Topics like discussing present and future finances and what’s best for your children are far more productive than getting wrapped up in what may be a continuous argument between each of you. In other words, stay on track with the legal and financial matters until the divorce is final.